Monday, January 18, 2010

remembering phil

We all got together this weekend to celebrate my brother's life. It was a sweet time to be with people he loved and that loved him. I had the privilege to share some of my thoughts about my brother.
 During Phil’s last days he took the time to say goodbye to some of the people in his life. I had determined that if he started to tell me goodbye, I wouldn’t let him. I was very thankful I didn’t have to have that conversation with him. I think neither of us wanted that. Goodbye seemed so final and I knew he would always be with me in my heart.
Phil had many qualities that I admired. I can say now after this ordeal that I most admire his courage, strength and ability to love. I had the opportunity to ask him in his last days if he was afraid and he told me no. He did admit that he was angry. He knew death was an enemy and he hated its effects on him and those he loved.
I was blessed to spend a good bit of time with him during the past 6 months and I will always cherish those times. I will always smile when I speak of him. I am very sad that I will not have new memories of him. Proverbs 10:7 says that “The memory of the just is blessed”. While way too few, we are all blessed by our own special memories of Phil.
Phil was a patient and kind man and he was loyal to those he loved. He always looked for the best in others and winked at our shortcomings. I encourage each of you to honor Phil by being the person he believed you to be. Take strength in the courage and love he showed all of us, even in his final days.
One last thought I’d like to share is a Hebrew proverb that says “Say not in grief 'He is no more' but live in thankfulness that he was". I am so very thankful to have had Phil in my life.



1 comment:

  1. i am so glad that you posted this. i didn't get to hear you say this because i was tending to wyatt. it was very beautiful and definitely described my dad perfectly.

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